All or nothing
Most of my life I’ve struggled with a perfectionist “all or nothing” approach to just about anything.
A few months back, I started seeing a life coach. A life coach basically is a psychologist that doesn’t take years and years to talk about what went wrong, but someone who uses a more direct approach. In our first conversation, he asked me what I wanted out of these sessions.
I told him something along the lines of “I want discipline to finish things”. Together we discuss why I don’t do what I want to do and why I’m stuck in the rut I’m in.
About a month ago, someone told me about FLY-lady, a baby step approach to de-cluttering your home and getting into routines to keep your house tidy.
Partially because of that perfectionist stroke I have, and partially because of my backproblems, I couldn’t keep my house tidy. With these two concepts, I’ve started to come about and take better care of myself and my house. OK, so I can’t do a day’s worth of dishes in one go. Instead of frustrating myself senseless, I now do it in two bouts. As long as it gets done!
Some of the principles that FLY-lady teaches I can project on other aspects of my life too.
Besides learning that it’s ok to take a break every 5 minutes if I need to and go from there, I’ve also started to be more active again socially.As some of you might know I went to Castlefest over the weekend. I was very scared of hurting my back, but in spite of that I decided to go. (Mainly because someone convinced me to come and managed to get me a free ticket)
Half a year ago, I wouldn’t have gone, and if I would have gone, I would have done anything I could to let no one know I was in agony, and consequently, I would have hurt myself. The past weekend was nothing like that. When I was in pain, I laid down, or found a quiet spot to chill out. I went there to take pictures, 1051 pictures as it turned out. Heaps of them were taken while I was sitting down with my tripod in front of me, or even when I was laying down.
I had a blast. I enjoyed the people, the music, the ambiance and the weather (ok, maybe Saturday’s rain is excluded from that). I’m so incredibly glad I went, in spite of all my fears and reservations.
I do however have 1051 pictures to dig through and post. A few people have asked me to send them specific snaps, and loads of them need cropping, so stay tuned for a full Castlefest report, I’ll try to get all the half decent ones online soon :-)
For now, I’m taking it slow, not going for the “all or nothing” in wanting to sort through them all in one go. Actually, I did some sorting today, I’m going to do some more housework now, half the dishes need doing ;-)
You know what? I’m not behind, I’m just getting started :-)